Hey Debra - My name is Henry but everyone calls me Harry. I have great empathy for your pain. There are times when relatives absolutely suck and the same goes for "friends". Being 35 and having to cope with Open Heart is devastating. I just turned 84 on August 15th so I been around the block a few times.My EX Wife has been and is my best friend. I lost everything at 79, $1,880,000 , Yellow Taxi Business, NYC.The Taxi was an investment, I was in Sales and Operations for the most profitable trucking company in America. A man I MADE AND WHO got lost for 5 years due to emotional problems is sitting on 2 million and never offered me a dime when I went broke but spent over $150,000 on some bimbo. I pray not to be bitter, If you have one true friend then God has blessed you. No sermons.....BUT...you are here for a visit and you came in alone and you are going out alone, make every day as if it were your last. I just offered up a prayer for you. God is with you, who can be against you.
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Henry Murphy
HJM Taxi Management
East Elmhurst NY
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Original Message:
Sent: 08-19-2020 18:02
From: Debra Malick
Subject: issues beyond the surgery
hey all,
it's been almost 4 years since my open heart surgery and i'm still feeling some of the affects of it. i'm open to offer any advice to anyone that may be going into surgery; like what to pack or that POPSICLES are so helpful after the fact. but i'm having some issues reconciling how my recovery went. i was 35 yrs old have a big family and some of them just abandoned me after. my only sister who also lives in nyc was 'too busy with her daughter's play practice and her kitchen renovation' to even check in on me.not even to see if i needed groceries or a med refill. i didn't even see her for the first 2 weeks despite living 15 mins apart. my parents came for the surgery from florida. but although they were here for the hospital visit they left 2 days after i was out of the hospital. my dad, whom i have many issues with, basically took my mom from me in my most vulnerable time in my life. he's kind of an SOB so it isn't out of character but it hasn't left me... i'm struggling because when everything fell down (besides being physically daunting i went thru all of my savings on rent and such and racked up 15k in debt) i was alone. everyone is so happy i survived it but honestly the physical scars don't bother me as much as the emotional ones.
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Debra Malick
Sunnyside NY
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