Hi Robert. Carrie hit the nail on the head. There is a new normal and that's always changing as well. Hanging on to what you believe was the old normal is futile and doomed to failure. It's no different than trying to look the way you looked when you were 20. No wonder it's depressing. You're trying to capture a fantasy of the way you think you once were (and whether it really was that good or you're forgetting the bad stuff is another story).
If you can focus on right now, on your little dog and your walks, on what is happening right now with you and the people in your life, you will experience the joy and gratitude, every day and hour, of just being alive. The past is just a painting you've created in your mind of what you think you remember, and the future is just something you imagine will happen. The only thing that is real is right now.
Ira
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Ira Reid
Hoboken NJ
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Original Message:
Sent: 08-24-2020 01:13
From: Carrie Kashani
Subject: 8.5 months into recovery
Hi Robert. I love this group. You never know when you're going to connect to something someone says. I've discovered that there is no getting back to normal. There is a new normal that takes time to figure out and get to know. Joining MH helped me realize that I was depressed because I just wanted to get back to "normal" but couldn't. I was stuck. When I had this revelation I have finally been able to move forward with a new normal. God Bless.
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[Carrie] [Kashani]
Parapro
ISD
[White Bear Lake [MN]
Carrie
Original Message:
Sent: 08-23-2020 13:22
From: Robert Sauder
Subject: 8.5 months into recovery
Thanks for being a supportive group.
Now 8.5 after 3 x Cabg and defibulator. and still working through heavy chest and breathing issues. Still do walking everyday ,but no rehab because of Covid. I want to be close to normal again that is all I think about. Its been a journey for sure...one that I dont ever want to go on again.. Fortunate, I have a great support group in my family , my little doggie and little walking buddy.. I got to keep my head on straight and not let depression sink in and douse my recovery. I notice from reading the blog that depression is pretty common and part and parcel of the recovery process. Just keep moving forward and look for a brighter day that is sure to come.
Robert Sauder
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Robert Sauder
Cumming GA
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